WHEN experiencing a problem, most women often find a way to pour out your heart (vent) to others. This step was they view as effective solutions.
But before starting the vent, you have to follow the advice Roslina Verauli, M.Psi of RS Pondok Indah Jakarta, as quoted by the tabloid Mom & Kiddie.
Vent so you're healthy, be sure to share about what he was feeling and thinking. When talking about feelings, you will soon become more comfortable. Most people are mistaken in doing vent. Discussed was the 3rd party aka talking in third person, as a husband. In fact this will only add to the negative feelings, not only from you, also from a friend who tried to solider and loyal to you, so it ends without giving the solution for you.
In addition to talking about emotions felt, you can also vent about what upset you so need to vent. Attack the problem not the person!
Not everything about the person you are worth knowing. There are some things that are just for personal use. For example, the things that make you feel inferior, phobias which, if disclosed, would be a point of weakness later. Conditions in the household so that if it is known to affect the outlook of people towards her husband. It all should not be disclosed in the vent session due to risk of personal credibility as well as your family.
Maybe this sounds trivial, but it's good if you are looking for the right time to vent. Time here is not just an hour, but we also have to know when the person you're looking air vent good mood. Do not get when vent, the response from your friends just pitched flat or say "oh". Do not until you grow "cranky" with the response beyond expectation.
Everyone has different values espoused. Some people are easy to spit the slightest thing that happened to him. There is also people who appreciate people who are able to sort out the contents of the conversation. Therefore, the smart-pandailah analyzed. Sorting particular topic also needs to be done. You can not always spit about money, let alone the debt to colleagues. It would be dangerous and drop-esteem, especially if you work in a particular field.
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